I am in love with this book! When you look at it there are really two underlying reasons why I love it:
1. It’s a book (about parenting), and I love books
2. It incorporates neuroscience at every turn. And I LOVE science! Who doesn’t?
The long and the short of it is, that this is an amazing book. Though you may be hopeful, as I was, that this would be the only parenting book you would ever need :P, it’s a good idea to keep reading my friend. Having the word “science” in the title made me hopeful that it would be my go to source book (whatever a source book is).
To give you an overview The Science of Parenting doesn’t jive with everything that parents practice these days. It explains the importance of not separating from your baby if a loving person isn’t around. All good so far, right. However, it doesn’t give a good time for when you should start separating from your baby (or how even to go about doing it). What I get out of this section though is that a baby can’t feel anything more powerfully than stress when they are left alone, and leaving them alone for too long can negatively alter the way their brain is going to function later on in life.
My Game Plan for Separation
My game plan after having read the chapter on separation and thinking about what to do is as follows:
1. Ensure that my baby gets to meet other loving people: kids, parents, and friends. Build up some relationships between my baby and those other people, whom I trust. Ensure that that they are caring and emotionally intelligent.
2. Don’t be afraid to give my baby too much love and ‘attention’. I don’t really like the word attention here because it makes it sound like the baby’s ego is a factor, when clearly she has none.
3. I’m hoping we’ll kind of naturally know when it’s okay to start leaving her alone with others. Also though, we’ll do a few test drives.
4. Gradually we’ll increase the amount of time she is left alone without her parents. This so she can go to summer camp (as soon as possible) and not feel stressed out when going to daycare or preschool.
I’ll probably post a full review once I’m finished. For now, I just wanted to say that I’m loving this book. It’s one of the ones worth reading as you prepare yourself to be a better parent.